So Grateful for My Depression, I Could Cry

Post by Michael Plahn

Recently, I was asked by the founder of a phenomenal website, developed specifically to benefit attorneys, to briefly explain my personal experience with overcoming mental illness and addiction.  I explained how my seemingly hopeless battle led to the birth of LifeSkills Authorities and the approach I believe is necessary to find long-term relief from addiction and Depressive Disorders.  As a result, my story and the LSA philosophy of change is a featured resource on the Lawyers With Depression homepage for the month of January.

Not long ago, my anger and cynicism would build over an article linking gratitude and depression, if I were not in too much pain and despair to actually care. I may even prepare a nasty response. Then I found what I believe is the solution to lasting change and relief from such issues as depressive disorders.

For well over a decade, chronic major depressive disorder, as I was labeled, eliminated my ability to experience joy in what appeared an idyllic life … on the outside.  On my darkest days I hoped a bus would veer off course to end my misery.  I suffered from severe bouts of depression that increased in frequency and duration.

Then, something happened that stopped the suffering. I experienced a profound change and insatiable quest for a solution to permanently prevent the pain.  I researched, explored, and implemented a variety of life improvement strategies.  My life has since focused on helping others, who share the same struggles that tormented me for decades, to find long-term relief, joy, peace, and a sense of purpose for their lives.

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MSNBC: Tough economy poses challenge for addicts

New article from MSNBC.com talks about how the loss of jobs and inability to find work can make it harder to stay sober. Author Eve Tahmincioglu states, “During tough economic times, it can be even harder to fight an addiction. It can also be more challenging for workers trying to clean themselves up to hold onto their jobs.”


“There are more financial stressors today,” said Dr. Barbara Krantz, CEO and medical director of research at Hanley Center, an addiction recovery center in West Palm Beach, Fla., adding that such stress can contribute to alcohol and drug use, both illegal and prescription. From 2007 through 2009, Hanley Center has seen more than a 60 percent increase in the number of patients citing work-related problems as one of the top reasons they are seeking substance addiction help.

In many cases, she added, workers lose their jobs because of substance abuse, but most employers don’t fire them outright over an addiction. “People tell us they lost their jobs because of absenteeism or poor job performance,” she said.

About the alcohol / drug distinction:

Protections for a worker with a substance abuse problem under the nation’s labor laws are not as clear as those for people with disabilities such as blindness or paraplegia.

“The ADA actually treats drug and alcohol abuse somewhat differently,” Chris Kuczynski, an attorney with the EEOC said. “An alcoholic who is currently drinking can be covered, although he or she can be held to the same standards as other workers concerning use of alcohol at the worksite, can be disciplined for violating rules that say employees cannot be working under the influence of alcohol, etc.

“The distinction between drug and alcohol use can be important in some situations, particularly where treatment is concerned. Because persons engaging in the illegal use of drugs aren’t covered and aren’t therefore entitled to reasonable accommodation, an employer doesn’t have to offer them the opportunity to take leave for treatment. On the other hand, because alcoholics who are currently drinking can be individuals with disabilities, reasonable accommodation in the form of time off for treatment may be required.”

If you were a former abuser, an employer can’t hold that against you in most cases.

About getting treatment:

In cases where the employer suspects a worker is high while on the job or that the employee has an abuse problem — and the employee has not owned up to it or asked for help — and the abuse is negatively impacting his or her work duties, the employer can terminate the employee, added Anthony Oncidi, partner and head of the Los Angeles labor and employment law group for Proskauer Rose.

Oncidi’s firm had a financial services client last year with a high-level employee who was repeatedly coming to work under the influence and even going to client meetings drunk. The female employee had been with the firm for five years, but the alcohol problem had surfaced only recently.

“She even went to a conference where she clearly had too much alcohol and embarrassed herself and the company,” he said. “They talked to her about it, but she denied she had a problem. She was fired.”

On the flip side, if an employee needs to take time off to go into a treatment program, the employer typically has to reasonably accommodate the worker, Oncidi said.

Read the entire article here on MSNBC.com.


Are the “Big Six” Your Key to Health and Happiness? Part 2 of 6

Post by Michael Plahn

This is the second installment of a six-part series to describe what I believe is the key to health and happiness as I have learned and personally experienced.  It is doubtful that each of these areas will be controversial, and when followed, the changes that I will suggest have proven without fail to help every one of my clients, when they take the suggested actions.  In just six installments, you may have the answer to achieve optimal health just by reading the LifeSkills Authorities Blog. With the goal to help identify the keys to optimal health for my own life and clients, I have read books, attended classes, acquired certifications, and listened to lectures by amazing individuals.  What I have learned through countless hours of studying, learning, and experimenting, can be summarized in a simple acronym: “TBHealthy Never Eat Carrots.”  That’s it you ask?   Here’s what the acronym TBHNEC actually stands for:

  • Thoughts
  • Breathing
  • Hydration
  • Nutrition
  • Exercise
  • Circadian Rhythm

Today the topic is exercise.  This is a monster topic and I am asked about this area by virtually everyone who hears that I have worked in and have extensive training in the fitness profession.  The typical question that I am asked is, “what should I do for a workout or exercise routine?”  For any of you who are trained in personal training, kinesiology, physical therapy, corrective exercise, or holistic lifestyle coaching, you know that this is a very complex question.  The answer requires complex and comprehensive assessments with the programs being different for most people.

First, in my opinion, based on my experience, exercise is not necessarily about lifting the most, working the hardest, perspiring the most, and feeling as though you have “really worked hard.”  Those who are properly trained or educated know that exercise is a stress to the body.  Some may view it as a “good stress” as I have heard it called, but is this really true?  Well, it could be from one perspective.  However, it is essential to realize that exercise is a stressor to the body.

Big deal, what does that mean?  It means that you need proper rest, nutrients, hydration, as well as proper healing time to compensate for the stress you put on your body as a result of exercise.  Thus, if you are not eating properly, sleep poorly, have relationship and career problems, and your posture is putting a constant strain on your system, and you ask me “what type of workouts should I do,” then after a series of assessments, the type of exercise I would likely recommend for you would be vastly different than if you have proper hydration, nutrition, sleep, relaxation, and your musculoskeletal system was in balance.  It just makes sense when you look at it at this basic level, doesn’t it?

Just walking for 20-30 minutes outside at a leisurely pace may be plenty or even too much exercise for many people.  It depends on a variety of factors, some of which I just mentioned.  As you can likely guess, to properly answer the common question of “what should I do for my workouts” depends not just on the individual’s goals, but also on the numerous factors that must be assessed to recommend the proper exercise routine.  I have found tremendous success personally and with my willing clientele if there is a willingness to look at the entire lifestyle and be open to making minor tweaks or maybe major changes in different areas.  This holistic view of health is where I have seen true lasting positive changes not just in fitness levels, fat and weight loss, but also in health, the way the body looks, and how we feel physically and emotionally.

One of the worst things a so-called “fitness professional” can do is prescribe or write a fitness program for someone without knowing salient details about the person’s life.  We are a culture of impatient, out-of-shape people who want dramatic change…and we want it now!  We are also a people who believe in excess.  Put all this together and you have millions of Americans with the good intentions of getting “healthy or in-shape,” who are struggling.  They are failing to meet their goals, frustrated, starting to believe they cannot change, maybe even getting depressed as a result, and then finding dysfunctional ways to deal with all these negative results.

People join gyms, buy quick fix products off of late-night television or at the local sporting goods store, and buy one of the hundreds of fitness magazines sold, to find the newest “sure-to-work” or  “customized” exercise routine.  You know what I have seen as a result of this?  People who join those gyms may stop going after a month or two.  Many who do exercise and use the plans they cut out of fitness magazines or implement tips they see on television, get poor results or short-lasting gains.  Some individuals make short-term progress, but cannot seem to stay on course to attain their goals for the long-term.  Many people hire well-meaning personal trainers.  Unfortunately, many of these trainers do not have the proper level of experience to understand how to look at the entire person and their lifestyle.  Subsequently, instead of partnering up with someone with the proper education and clinical experience, they write improper fitness routines for their excited new clients.  This leads to injury, incomplete results, decreased self-esteem, and potentially life-threatening recommendations.   Why are these the common patterns?

People spend billions of dollars on poorly designed, but brilliantly marketed, fitness equipment with claims that it will change your body (and seem to imply your life) in six weeks.  In no time, that equipment packs second hand stores and garage sales if it is not at the local dump.  But, you know what?  The fitness industry is getting bigger and more profitable by the day while our country is getting fatter, more discouraged, and more sedentary at the same time.

This does NOT have to happen to you.  If you believe that you are financially unable to engage with a competent qualified professional, but have the sincere, desire to change, then ask them for help.  You may be surprised to find that those who are the best at what they do in the fitness business, have a sincere desire to help others and will likely find a way to help you improve your life in some way.

To summarize, here is my suggestion to you.  Hire a qualified competent professional who understands how to look at your entire lifestyle to help you take the actions that will produce lasting change.  Interview them before you hire them.  If they don’t ask about your entire life and lifestyle thoroughly, and take detailed assessments, or partner with individuals who can do the proper assessments, then do not hire them.  If you do not have the money, ask yourself the hard question, “How much is your life really worth to you?”  Then see if you have the money to invest in yourself.  You may suddenly find that it’s pouring outside and its time to use that “rainy day fund.”


Are the “Big Six” Your Key to Health and Happiness? Part 1 of 6

Post by Michael Plahn

This is the first installment of a six-part series to describe what I believe is the key to health and happiness as I have learned and personally experienced.  It is doubtful that each of these areas will be controversial, and when followed, the changes that I will suggest have proven without fail to help every one of my clients, when they take the suggested actions.  In just six installments, you may have the answer to achieve optimal health just by reading the LifeSkills Authorities Blog. With the goal to help identify the keys to optimal health for my own life and clients, I have read books, attended classes, acquired certifications, and listened to lectures by amazing individuals.  What I have learned through countless hours of studying, learning, and experimenting, can be summarized in a simple acronym: “To Be Healthy Never Eat Carrots.”  That’s it you ask?   Here’s what the acronym TBHNEC actually stands for:

  • Thoughts
  • Breathing
  • Hydration
  • Nutrition
  • Exercise
  • Circadian Rhythms

It is not about having a rigid stance of boycotting that beautiful orange produce…far from it.  I’ll start explaining The Big Six, as I call them, with the last one first, Circadian Rhythms.  Since this one can be extremely complicated, I will focus on one system of the body under this topic.  Basically, it means sleep patterns.  I promise you, it is important not just how much total sleep you get each night.  There are other areas that are crucial to achieve success in this area.  Ask yourself, not just how much sleep you get regularly (by the way I have heard experts say that their studies show that we need between 8.5-10.5 hours every night!), but all of the following questions:

  • Is your sleep continuous or do you wake up throughout the night?
  • What time did you go to sleep? (studies suggest optimum is near sundown)
  • What time did you wake up? (studies suggest optimum is near sunrise)

I work with two groups of people on these questions:  1) Busy executives who are highly stressed and have poor stress management strategies, or who travel extensively. 2) People not feeling well or whose health has begun to suffer and their physician has told them they need to get more sleep and take better care of themselves.  The reason it is only these two groups is because this is a very difficult area to effectuate change in people.  I have much more success with nutrition, exercise and the other areas in the Big 6, but nobody wants to go to bed early it seems.  I am not entirely certain why this is, but my suspicion is that people are so over-stimulated and attempt to pack so much into their lives, personally and professionally, that they simply cannot afford to “waste” valuable hours sleeping. There are some  techniques that fall into what is called “sleep hygiene” that can make a tremendous difference to help some people fall asleep and stay asleep.  Sleep hygeine can be described as the actions, habits, or predictable things people do to tell their bodies that it is time to prepare to sleep.  Experts suggest to turn off lights, the computer, and the television an hour before it is time to sleep, otherwise the body will release stress hormones that actually trigger you to stay awake. As someone who spent most of his life using the television to put me to sleep, I chuckled at how impractical this idea from the supposed experts was because I did not want to live my life like this.  I didn’t want to waste my life going to bed at 8PM!  The suggestion of having a predictable routine was fine, but doing this right about sundown (or as soon after as possible) again sounded nice, but maybe in my elder years.  I mean this is absurd, right?  Who is going to do this?  You know who will be compliant to suggestions like these?  People who are completely unable to sleep without strong sleeping medication (which still doesn’t completely do the trick), those who are sick, and those who are just miserable and atribute part of it to poor sleep.  Those are the people who are willing to take such suggestions. My suggestion to you is the same I would give any of my clients, use balance to guide you.  It is unrealistic to go from a bedtime of 1AM to sometime near sundown in a week or two.  And, this may not be necessary at all.  A good suggestion is to try 15 minutes earlier every week, keep the TV off in the bedroom (use your BR for two things, sleeping and the other “s” word), and try to develop some predictable patterns like brushing your teeth and then washing your face thirty minutes prior to climbing into bed.  The key is to make sure that the changes you implement are realistic and they work for your life.  Just because a supposed expert recommends something doesn’t necessarily mean that I would recommend it for you.  If you are happy, healthy, and your lack of sleep is not a big deal to you, then keep doing what you are doing.  It is none of mine or anyone else’s business to tell you to change just because the experts have spoken.  It is simple: if it is not broken, no need to fix it.   Yet, if you think your approach to sleep may need some work then maybe try some of the strategies I suggested. Have you tried sleep hygeine or can you provide personal experience on this topic?   Give my recommendations a shot and let us know how they worked for you.   As always, we love to hear from you so please comment. Next, I will tackle the topic of exercise, so make sure you are properly rested.


Job Promotion? Go to the Doctor!

Post by Sarah Wilde

There is no doubt that along with a job also comes stress.   Yet many people think if they only get to the next level in their career or advance in their current position then life just may become easier.  What people often forget to take into account is the impact their job has on their health.    We are quick to assume that “moving up” will make everything better … more money, less stress at home, better relationships, greater access to rewarding activities and fun.

What often is the case in career advancement though is added pressure and greater demands which lead to less time at home with the family, as well as a negative impact on healthy choices such as nutrition, exercise and hobbies.  In fact, research on job promotions shows that after advancing at work, employees are 20% less likely to visit their doctors for routine physicals or specific health complaints. Furthermore, promoted workers have more time constraints that, coupled with increased mental strain and stress, leads to fewer doctors’ visits and poorer health.   The stress of the new job can impact the entire family.  Now surely there are many positives in career advancement but this is pointing out that making healthy choices often means taking a holistic account of what each choice will impact.  

It is important to keep in front of any potential stress triggers and maintain harmony in life while advancing along the career path.   This is as important for executives as it is for those just entering the work force, or re-entering due to a layoff, birth of a child, or furthering one’s studies.   At LifeSkills Authorities we have coaching modules specifically centered on stress management and attaining – and maintaining – work-life balance.   When advancing in a career, health is often overlooked.  Unless there is some sort of major situation that develops such as depression, substance abuse, heart issues or any host of stress provoked conditions, one may not intervene on their own loss of balance.   Keep in mind though that even if it takes a doctor appointment here and there, or an honest look at time allocation and priorities, it is easier to stay healthy than it is to work back to healthy.

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